In American culture, sexual activity is considered to be “dirty” and subject is considered to be “taboo” in various conservative circles, including evangelical congregations. This seems to be a remnant of puritan past, yet sexual inappropriate behavior includes full-body hugs which are being replaced with “Christian side hugs”–a ridiculous and possibly the silliest definition of “sexual contact” I have seen in my entire life. However the function of sexual intercourse is to reproduce, which is correctly identified by conservatives. It is pleasurable also, for if it wasn’t, no one would willingly engage in sexual intercourse. For prudish and puritanical reasons, having sex without the reproduction initiative is sinful because it is “hedonistic” and “lustful” which is some of the reason why “Sodom and Gommorah were destroyed” in their fairytale tome of dimwitted if not nonsensical “morality”. Even pleasuring one’s self is sinful as it does not promote the whole “be fruitful and multiply” message repeated ad nauseam.

To those of us unfettered by religious dogmatic “morality” define “sexual contact” much differently. Hugs are not sexually suggestive, but an affectionate embrace between family members, children and friends regardless of sexual orientation. There is no hidden sexual agenda when embracing unless of course one’s hands linger down toward a respectable, attractive “honey” ass. Kisses that linger are displays of affection, not essentially sexual in nature. Making love to one’s sexual partner involves foreplay, oral sex, and sexual positions more pleasurable and fun than the default “missionary” position conservatives employ as being “pure and acceptable”. Lust to the unfettered is a wonderful thing that is explored and shared by two consenting adults. Masturbation teaches one what touches and motions pleasure one to delightful, shivering orgasm or relieves the the urge for sexual intercourse when a suitable partner is unavailable. There is no mysterious, ominous, gigantic thumb in the sky ready to smear us when we enjoy real sexual contact, sexual intercourse and sexual pleasure.

Perversions are defined by many Christians as homosexuality, sex before marriage, oral sex, anal sex, S & M, polygamy, polyandry, polyamory, swinging, wife swapping for sex, husband swapping for sex, voyeuristic pleasure, and almost all positions other than the missionary position mentioned above. To those unfettered by the constrictive definition of religious dogma consider sexual activity between consenting adults, yet are often accused of being sympathetic and understanding of sexual contact, sexual intercourse, and sexually inappropriate behavior between adults and children which is not only untrue, but serves as an insult. Many conservatives believe that the legality of same-sex marriage will usher in the legality of “poly” love, bestiality, and child molestation. They use fear and misinformation to keep their congregation in a hysterical state against that which they label “perverted”.

Why? For generations upon generations, the Christian dogma has controlled every aspect of people’s lives. From the prevention of using birth control to how one engages in sexual intercourse have all been directed by ministers, priests, and popes. Many people were satisfied to have their churches define life, love, and acceptable sexual behavior for them without any of them engaging in what was truly pleasurable for them. In the several last decades or so, the information technology improved drastically, bringing like-minded people together and shedding light on the knowledge that having sex is a natural thing, adult pornography is entertaining, and the evolution of morality also redefined for an individual what perversion actually is. It has become acceptable to have individual and independent thought, redefining morality with logical conclusions and reasonable, rational and responsible decisions on a secular scale instead of one fat with overbearing and fanatical religious commandments, busybody minsters, priests and popes enjoying a type of voyeurism, and prudish ideology that include nudity being “sinful” and “shameful”. There are churches and temples out there that have actually evolved with the modern world around them instead of clinging to some “dark age” mythology and Bronze Age “wisdom” scribbled by people looking for a way to manipulate and control while capitalizing on tithes and offerings.

The Christian conservative stranglehold on society is slipping away and they are in a panic state. If sexual intercourse can be redefined as morals evolve, more people will shirk off the yoke of dogmatic irrationality. They struggle against change because with change comes smaller and smaller audiences, smaller and smaller tithes, less and less Cadillacs and Mercades in the driveway, and no chance of regaining the necessary advantage over the people to keep them in the pews and dependent on the church to define and live their lives for them. The Sexual Revolution has made its mark and now The Information Age is making its mark. Religion unable to evolve will eventually be weeded out by natural selection as an unnecessary meme to promote the survival of the species. It may not come to pass in my lifetime, but soon a secular society will be more important than theocratic one. What a wonderful day that will be.

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